Five Ways to Win my Heart
When I was asked to write about this, I think I had a couple of clear basics that I needed from any man to win my heart.
They should believe in love, romance, and fantasy
A lot of people stop believing in the idea of falling in love when they get in and out of a few relationships. They move down the line of “companionship is needed in life, there are responsibilities involved along with the fun and partnership isn’t the bed of roses or ideal we were looking for in our younger years”. But I don’t really gel with such dead spirits. At the end of the day, my fire is burning no matter what, through COVID, through Tsunami, through work pressure, so why not through a couple of failed relationships here and there? It’s not the end of the world and if not utopia, something close to it can still exist.
They should have a fun bucket list with a sense of rebellion
A lot of times I have met men who don’t really think about what they want to with their future. They have accepted the fact that work will rule the majority of their lives and then familial responsibilities. But isn’t there more to everyone than just what society expects you to do? Isn’t there some sense of rebellion you felt as a child as to you why you have to live by these norms laid out in front of you?
They should love to travel
Travel and exploration is a huge part of my life, but I don’t do as much of it as I would like to. Hence the need for someone who does a lot of travel and is really passionate about it. Travel also inculcates a sense of high spirits yet humbleness in a person, and that would be a definite quality in a man I want to spend the rest of my life with.
They should be parental/caring
This is super important. When you’re living with a partner, no matter how independent we women are, there is a general basic expectation of care in case of sickness or downtime. If the man is not able to identify these moments and act, then he’s not a keeper. EVER. In fact, he’s a dumbfuck who’s probably been doted on by his parents.
They should be reasonably physically attractive
Most people say that you shouldn't base a relationship on just attraction, which is true. But I think I have made mistakes where I have given many men a chance just because they were reasonably nice, but I wasn’t physically attracted to them. This bombed in my face later when they used to start flirting with me and I used to feel super-duper awkward. So henceforth, I automatically say no to anyone I’m not physically into. It might be undeniable for a lot of other people, but I learned it the hard way.
So, that’s my top 5. What’s yours? Feel free to type it out in the comments below!!